‘tight’ but not tight

We're in an oversized era, with everything. From the portions served at restaurants to our growing consumption of most goods and services, including fashion. And current style reflects our lust for buying larger than life. Right now, oversized is in - Oversized hoodies and sweaters. I’m normally a size 4, but I buy large or XL. Baggy jeans are back, apparently one generation took it upon themselves to banish the favored look of the Jonas Brothers and their fans. And personally, I can’t go anywhere without a bag large enough to fit every toiletry known to mankind, an extra outfit, my computer and an oversized wallet with my stack of credit cards. It’s like packing an overnight bag.

I'm riding the oversized train, and not just because I’m pregnant. Even pre-pregnancy my go-to ‘fit was genie pants over a bodysuit. One thing I don't love… The baggy on baggy trend. And I really don't love it for maternity. Why? Because as your body grows, so can your insecurities on body image. And covering it up only makes that worse, in my opinion.

For those who know me well know that for about nine months out of the year I exist in crop tops. I love them. I’m 31 and still love them and even as a soon-to-be mom I don’t see myself cropping them out of my life. It would also cost me a fortune to replace that part of my wardrobe. So, one thing that’s helped me through my pregnancy body image insecurity is continuing to show off my stomach and appreciate it for all of its changes. But, Fall weather is finally setting in here in Nashville, TN, so with crop tops out until next Spring, I’ve turned to tight-fitting dresses.

Currently in my third trimester, it’s safe to say I’m getting more uncomfortable by the day, as all pregnant woman do. And prioritizing comfort over cute is nothing to be ashamed of! Especially when you’re lounging at home or just out for a quick errand. But if you’re on a date night or out with friends, for a lot of reasons, when it comes to maternity, tighter might just be better.

They say, ‘If you’ve got it, flaunt it.’ Go out and own your bump if your body is feeling up to it. You are doing a whole lot of damn work 24/7 to grow your baby and it deserves recognition and pride. I know my face feels constantly puffy and there’s always dark circles under my eyes. My skin is red and blotchy because I’m worried about what effects the ingredients in my face creams will have on my growing baby. And I can’t control that I’ve gained 40 pounds, and if you’re expecting you can’t either. But you can


Beautiful in Pregnancy

Body image in pregnancy is complicated, to say the least. On one hand, as your bump grows, so does your excitement, among other things, and there’s usually plenty of complements to go around on that round tummy. One of my best friends called my bump ‘the cutest ever’ and comments like these make a world of difference as you grow into your new, changing body. And as beautiful as it is, it can also be hard. There’s a universal truth my therapist and I continue to work on during my sessions that applies to so many things in life ‘Two things can be different and true at the same time.’ This certainly applies to the duality of body image in pregnancy. It’s true, you can love your growing bump and that baby inside of it more than anything AND… At the same time it can be true to have days when you struggle to look in the mirror and feel comfortable in your skin. I now weigh more than I ever have in my life. To which many people could casually comment here and say, ‘Of course you do, you’re growing a human.’ Yes, of course I do. But it doesn’t make seeing that number on the scale or no longer fitting in certain clothes - no matter how temporary it is - easy. In the months leading up to my pregnancy, I was training to model. I was working with an agent, had a big photoshoot booked, a spot secured at a model showcase in New York City, the whole nine yards. I was limiting my calories and upping my exercise routine. All that changed as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I believe God’s timing is perfect and I have no hard feelings about missing out, it wasn’t meant to be. But regardless, it was a drastic switch in my diet, exercise, and the image I was building for myself… quite literally overnight.

The main reason I wanted to get into modeling - I love fashion. When done right, fashion has the power to build your confidence and self-image, to empower you to take on whatever the day brings. Coco Chanel once said, “Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.”

So naturally, I believed looking up maternity clothes was of the utmost importance after getting the great news of our baby. But at first, second, third, and fourth glance, I hated everything I saw. I went on dozens of websites and found 99% of what I saw to be frumpy, boring, and totally overpriced. So, over the last few months I’ve taken to my very full closet that I love, to see what can be repurposed into maternity fashion. To do this instead of rushing off to buy new maternity clothes has been rewarding in many different ways.

Confidence: For those reading this who are going through or will go through pregnancy, I think you’ll be surprised to see how much of your current wardrobe will still fit you for months into the process. Don’t be afraid to try on and see what still works. It won’t all fit, but a lot of it will, and when it does you’ll feel a surge of confidence in your body image knowing it’s still you and you’re still beautiful even with all of the changes happening.

Sustainability: Sustainable fashion is something I’ve been passionate about for years. I love hand-me-downs, buying used clothing, and outfit-repeating. I don’t think any of us can say for certain we know how many children we’ll be blessed with, so it’s possible you may only be pregnant once. If you create a completely new wardrobe… That’s a lot of single-use clothing. Yes, you can hand-it-down or donate it, but odds are, one way or another, a lot of it will end up in a landfill. I think taking a couple glances back in your closet and a few minutes to try on old clothing before hitting that check-out button could do a lot to help keep some clothes out of the garbage.

Expenses: We know babies are expensive, that’s a give-in. Worth it, but expensive. That saying ‘Every penny counts,’ couldn’t be more fitting. So saving $50, $100, $500, however much you save by repurposing even one former ‘fit into maternity wear can make a difference in paying for doctor’s appointments, treating yourself and your baby to an extra fun nursery decoration, putting money toward the big ticket items like cribs and carseats, and feeling financially stable for the expenses to come… Like diapers.

Here are some of my favorite repurposed outfits in my maternity fashion journey so far:

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Long teal cardigan purchased used on Poshmark in 2018.

Express dress given as a hand-me-down from my cousin.

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Khloe’s edit Fabletics set purchased pre-pregnancy in 2024.

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Black hand-me-down dress and Hot Pink Express blazer at 6 months pregnant(left)and 5 weeks pregnant(right).

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White Express dress in 2024 (left) and in 2014 (right). I’ve kept this beautiful baby for 10 years and it still fits after a decade and into pregnancy!

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Denim romper purchased from a boutique in The Bahamas in 2019.

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White crop top created at home from a dress that no longer worked.

Overalls purchased from T.J. Maxx in 2017.

(Despite the difficulties overalls, rompers, and bodysuits present when you have to pee - They’re some of the most versatile pre-pregnancy outfits that continue to fit throughout much of pregnancy!)